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March 9th was my birthday, and these two charmers set about to surprise me, and succeeded beyond all measure. The birthday greetings were next-level blush inducing, and really, truly made my day.

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Y’all! Today’s episode of The Daily Whatever Show, Not Straight Forward edition was off-the-charts awesome.

I got to announce my new regular co-host for this fun experiment, the incomparable (thank you, Aidan!) and we had the best fucking time speaking with of Good Queer News.

We talked about ass orgasms (yes, really), politics, the Kansas Trans drivers license disaster, organizing, showing up, advocating even over brunch in a blue city, and so much more. You have got to give the whole show a listen.

Finally, we left y’all with some Music That Is Giving Us Life™:

• Lawrence: Rosalia

• Aidan: Nicolina

• Ben: Florence + the Machine

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Today I was thrilled to welcome back who publishes —and who has a thing or two (or three) to say about open relationships.

We spoke about his recent articles, both of which I highly encourage you to read:

Gay Buffet

Why Do People Hate Open Relationships So Much?

“Open relationships are a sign of weakness…

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2 months ago · 79 likes · 62 comments · Aidan Wharton

Gay Buffet

"Open Relationships Are All About Sex" And Other Myths

Obviously, this has been quite a week, and Casey and I are feeling both the support and strain of being visible people on the internet…

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a month ago · 25 likes · 5 comments · Aidan Wharton

The conversation was spectacular—the best kind, where you learn something, get to share about your experiences, and also have a chance to educate and dispel myths. Honestly, the whole vision of what I want to do with Not Straight Forward was encapsulated in this episode.

I loved it so much, I asked Aidan to come back next week—and for the foreseeable future as my co-host for this little adventure.

Check out this most recent chat, and come back next week to help us dig into more queer stuff: queer history, queer politics, relationships, dating, sex, and so much more!

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Not Straight Forward with Lawrence Winnerman is my weekly queer takeover of the conversation. I’m a GenX gay man who has lived through the AIDS crisis, cultural whiplash, political backlash, long relationships, bad dates, addiction in my orbit, reinvention, and more trial-and-error than I’d ever recommend. On this episode, I’m joined by Madam Füsun Aydın — writer, trans woman, sex worker, brothel madam, and one of the most fearless voices I know. Together we talk plainly about queer life — sex, love, survival, danger, autonomy, aging, and the kind of knowledge you only get the hard way. No performative outrage. No rainbow branding theater. Just real conversation between people who’ve lived it.

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If you’re looking for sanitized “it gets better” slogans, this isn’t that. If you want lived experience, generational memory, and the kind of insight that comes from surviving your own mistakes — you’re in the right place. Füsun brings unfiltered perspective from the realities of sex work and trans life; I bring GenX memory and hard-won lessons from decades inside queer culture. Nothing about our lives has been straightforward. That’s exactly the point.

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